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LOSS OF CONTROL

     CRITERIA NUMBER THREE REFERS TO A CONCEPT THAT COULD BE PUT SIMPLY AS "LOSS OF CONTROL".  THE PERSON DOES NOT ON A CONSISTENT BASIS HAVE CONTROL OVER HOW MUCH OF THE SUBSTANCE THEY USE.

    AN EXAMPLE TO ILLUSTRATE THIS WOULD BE TO ASK THE QUESTION "CAN SOMEONE THAT WE DEFINE AS BEING ALCOHOLIC GO INTO A BAR AND DECIDE TO HAVE TWO DRINKS AND STICK WITH THAT DECISION BY ONLY HAVING TWO DRINKS".?  WE WOULD BE LED TO BELIEVE AGAIN BY MOVIES, TV, PRESS TO THINK THAT ONCE THE ALCOHOLIC BEGAN DRINKING HE WOULD BE UNABLE TO STOP BUT THIS IS NOT ALWAYS THE CASE. IT IS IMPORTANT TO REALIZE THAT WE LOOK AT WHAT HAPPENS MOST OF THE TIME. SOMETIMES THE ADDICT IS ABLE TO CONTROL THEIR USE FOR PERIODS AND IF OUR ALCOHOLIC SUCCESSFULLY HAS HIS TWO DRINKS AND LEAVES, IT REINFORCES HIS DENIAL AND ILLUSION OF CONTROL. I OFTEN HERE OF A WIFE COMPLAINING THAT HER HUSBAND MAKES A FOOL OUT OF HIMSELF AT PARTIES AND HE WILL TELL HER THAT THE NEXT TIME HE WILL ONLY HAVE TWO DRINKS. IF HE DOES THIS, HE IS ABLE TO SAY " SEE, I TOLD YOU I CAN CONTROL MY DRINKING". HE OF COURSE THEN REPEATS HIS PREVIOUS PATTERN.  SO THE ALCOHOLIC AT TIMES MAY BE ABLE TO STICK WITH A LIMIT THAT HE HAS SET FOR HIMSELF, BUT MUCH MORE LIKELY HE WILL DRINK MUCH MORE THAN INTENDED.

    WE CAN CONTRAST THIS WITH A PERSON THAT WE DEFINE AS BEING NON ALCOHOLIC. DOES SUCH A PERSON EVER WALK INTO A BAR INTENDING TO ONLY HAVE TWO DRINKS AND HAVE MORE TO THE POINT OF INTOXICATION?  OF COURSE!!!  DOES THAT MEAN THAT PERSON IS ALCOHOLIC?  NO. THE DIFFERENCE IS YOU HAVE THE FIRST GROUP THAT ON A CONSISTENT BASIS IS NOT ABLE TO STICK WITH A SELF IMPOSED LIMIT ALTHOUGH ON OCCASION THEY MAY DO SO AND THE OTHER GROUP WHICH ON A CONSISTENT BASIS IS ABLE TO STICK WITH A SELF IMPOSED LIMIT ALTHOUGH ON OCCASION THEY MAY CONSUME MORE THAN INTENDED. IT IS WHAT HAPPENS MOST OF THE TIME THAT WE LOOK AT.